Loneliness comes in various guises. Sometimes you want to connect, to talk with somebody. Desperately wanting to know someone is willing to talk with you. Sometimes it’s that ache of needing to be hugged, because it’s been so long. Other times it’s just wanting a laugh and forgetting you live half of your life inside your own head. It’s knowing you don’t have a friend to tag in giveaways on Twitter, won’t need an extra seat, and second guessing every damn decision you make.
I remember feeling the loss when I was rejected by friends as a seven-year-old. Friends that thought I was a little bit strange, intense, overzealous. For me it is ingrained now, loneliness. I find my own solutions, sometimes through poetry, and other times good old Google helps me out.
Does technology make us more or less likely to be lonely? I don’t know.
It is different for everybody. I didn’t grow up with technology the likes we have now. I remember tapes and VHS and floppy discs and the house phone. When I begin to use the internet in my late teens I found community and people that I could engage with. It’s incredibly easy to talk to people online when you aren’t so used to it offline. Which is where I have to say it’s about balance. If life offline is OK then it’s much easier to regulate what you are doing online. You won’t be vulnerable to coming into contact with that disease called scroll and compare.
The listings below are literary magazines/journals that specifically focus on the artists and writers in the LGBTQ+ community. There are many other literary magazines that support LGBTQ+ contributors. For a more general list of all-inclusive/feminist lit mags, check out my list here: Feminist Lit Mags and Journals.
These literary magazines/journals are listed alphabetically; some are currently accepting submissions, some are temporarily closed. I’ve also included whether or not it is a paying market in the notes column. These lit mags/journals also fit the following criteria:
Generally do not charge fees to submit (although some may charge fees for some types of submissions and for contests).
They accept poetry submissions.
All accept electronic submissions.
If you have suggestions for lit mags/journals I’ve missed, please contact me here or leave a comment below.
I can happily promote a blog post, but the idea of shouting about a book that I have written SCARES THE HELL OUT OF ME!
Below is me in cat form being told I will need to promote my book.
Book promotion feels like a different ball game to me.
Now, before I begin this post, please remember I am new to this. This is not a definitive guide to book promotion. I am at the start of my book journey. This will feel basic to some of you seasoned authors and I do apologise in advance. As I keep telling myself we all have to start somewhere.
I am a blogger and I feel a duty to share my experiences and hopefully someone somewhere will get some courage to do what I’ve done.
When I stopped drinking, it was the first fortnight which was the hardest – and the first few days were downright horrible. I remember walking from my house to the bookshop, which was about a mile away, feeling grim – but determined to see if I could get hold of a book on going sober (which turned out to be a really good idea). I was about day 3 in to my alcohol free adventure, and it felt like more of an ordeal than an adventure at that point. I came home, lay on my bed, shed a few tears of self pity and then opened up the book.
When you’ve been drinking pretty much every day – even if it is just half a bottle or a bottle of wine – your mind and body craves it. It takes a while for the alcohol to leave your system, so…
I have been blogging for a few years now. Blogging is an extension of my poetry. Why do I share my thoughts and feelings and experiences in my poetry and through my blog posts? Because I want to be heard. I want to believe in the strength of my voice. I want to connect. I feel poetry can be a hand held out to help somebody else up. I have depression and anxiety. It’s been some long years with these demons; understanding them, managing them, getting help for them. Having depression and anxiety, wanting to connect is important. Connection is vital. It makes you feel supported and a part of something. It makes you want to be alive. It gives you hope. Depression and anxiety might have coloured my past, but they will not rule over my present, or determine my future. I am fighting. When I write I am fighting. I am fighting feeling like an imposter, the stigma, the voice that says nobody cares about what you have to say, the labels.
I am becoming the person depression and anxiety tried to derail.
Your support would mean everything. I will be posting a poem here two or three times a week. I am working on several different books, so subjects will vary from mental health to travel and lifestyle. I will post poems from my current works in progress too.